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'How do you know if you are with the right person?'

Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning you fall in love. Well, the honeymoon period. You anticipate their calls, their goodmorning and goodnight text messages and want their touch. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was completely spontaneous experience. Every moment of it was bliss. You didn't have to do anything. That's why its called 'falling in love'.

But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a NATURAL CYCLE OF EVERY RELATIONSHIP. Slowly but surely, calls become a bother, short replies of messages and touch is not always welcome. You notice the dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much more duller stage.

At this point, you and your partner might start asking, 'Am I with the right person?' And as you reflect on the euphoria of love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships fall apart.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Cheating is the most common. But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And temporarily you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few months later.

Sustaining love is difficult. You have to work on it. It takes time, energy and effort. And most importantly it demands wisdom. YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHAT TO DO TO MAKE IT WORK. 

Love is not a mystery. There are specific things you can do with or without your partner. 

Love is a decision, not just a feeling.